If Men are everywhere, the gas station, school, work, the
club, church, why is it so hard for some women to find a good man? While we are
young we aren’t necessarily looking for a Husband but how about a guy who’s
honest, fun, educated, working and too mature to play games.
I’ve lived in Los Angeles my whole life and as I’ve gotten
older, wiser and more mature I find and hear that it’s a challenge for a lot of
women, black women in particular, to find a good man, especially in LA. If she’s looking for a good Black man,
some say its nearly impossible, and personally I would agree.
While a good man is hard to find, once he FINDS YOU its worth
the wait, trust me! Part of the problem is, a lot of us don’t like to wait. We want Mr.
Right, Right now! Too often in our haste to find him we settle for the first,
half decent, man to tell us what we want to hear (and they are so good and it
aren't they?) When we really don’t want to wait we go out and look for him. We
make the first move. We plan the first date, pick him up and end up paying for
it all. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with introducing yourself to
a man and being interested but there is something wrong if you have to hint,
hint, shove, shove your number into his phone.
The truth of the matter is it’s not always fun to sit at
home on a Friday night or be out on the town for ANOTHER girl’s night out! What
I found is when you least expect it he’s right there. When you are working on
yourself and getting your stuff together he’ll find you. As women we don’t have to do much. If a
dude likes you he’ll show you. He’ll call when he says he’s going to call.
He’ll make the effort, and if he doesn’t, Oh well! Word of advice there’s no
rush, and please don’t settle. There are good men out here sometimes you just
have to wait for him to find you, but in the mean time have fun, do you!
